BDSM books versus Real Life
Hey, so I read a lot of BDSM books, but have never been active in my local community. In most books, all the subs in the club have to submit to all the doms in a club. Calling them all sir and serving them drinks/food, etc.
Is this the case in real life?
Maybe because I identify more as a brat, but the appeal to me is earning my submission and serving someone I have deep feelings for, I feel like I’d find it difficult showing this trait towards multiple people I wasn’t involved with. I feel like calling someone Sir is part of the dynamic, not just a title.
Of course one would build connections in the community and want to treat people with kindness and respect, but I feel like these actions are taking it beyond that.
Thoughts? Am I just inexperienced with the lifestyle?