Hi, I (30F) am in a relationship with A (28M). I work in childcare and have been feeling incredibly sore around my neck and shoulders because of my job. When my boyfriend asked about my day, I told him I was looking into getting a massage because the pain doesn’t seem to be going away.
He responded with, “With a woman, right?” I told him I didn’t really have a preference. He then said he wasn’t okay with a man touching me.
I have a lot of issues with possessive and jealous behavior in relationships, so while I told him I understood that it made him uncomfortable, I also said that ultimately it was my decision. I explained that I was looking to book an appointment at a professional clinic in a professional setting, but he became sharp with me afterward.
If I’m being completely honest, I genuinely don’t care about the gender of the massage therapist. But part of me feels like if I let him dictate something like this, where does it stop? Would I eventually need to avoid male hairstylists too? What about male doctors or gynecologists?
I need outside perspectives here. Am I the asshole for not specifically requesting a woman, even though I easily could?