Hi there friends. I could use your help processing what I’m experiencing, and maybe get some clarity.
I went NC with my mother nearly two years ago, and I got news today that she’s got some liver… thing. I told her one of the biggest reasons I was going NC was her abusive conduct when she drank, and the long and short of what I read is that her biopsy results mean that she’s in the beginning stages of liver failure/pre-cancer or something similar. Stage 2 MASH, according to my grandmother, which from what I understand doesn’t necessarily affect her life expectancy but would (I hope) be a wake up call.
On the one hand, I still have the lingering pain of losing that idealized parent that I always wanted. And I feel like that’s never going to completely disappear. But on the flip side, I was very up front that this doesn’t mean any sort of reconnection will happen. Also… I want to just be like, “hello actions, meet consequences.” I don’t think this will be the wake-up call it needs to be, and I don’t think it’s going to change anything other than the rest of the family making excuses instead of actually acknowledging the issues at hand.
Any insight into this would be helpful.