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Top 10 from 5-10, how would you rank them as places to work? All in terms of their professionalism, systems, benefits, skill growth, opportunities, etc…

I’ve seen many other kids and this behavior just seem extreme. She enjoys causing chaos and being downright mean. Like when she does these things she’s happy and gets pleasure out of it. Examples:

- she will purposely sit on seats before one of us can
- she will kick us and pull our hair and laugh and smile about
- spits around the house and even at us
- hits her 1 year old sister
- just knocks things off counters for no reason
- wants to hit and throw her stuffed animals
- throwing toys off the balcony
- when she doesn’t get what she wants sometimes going ballistic with screaming

And there are so many more examples and when they happen, and we try to address it in the moment it always escalates. And we’ve tried so may different things like ignoring it, or being calm, setting a strict boundary, and not letting her do it, and trying not to have a big reaction because she might just be seeking that. But nothing works… like if she starts hitting her sister and we step in calmly and say we don’t hit, and remove her from the situation, she tries to do it more and more.

We don’t know how to address this general theme of enjoying being mean

I used 2 cups milk, 1 cup cream, 6 egg yolks, and I also tempered the eggs. Once I started cooking all of it together by adding the tempered eggs to the rest of the base, it started to getting chunky.

I did get some egg white accidentally as it was difficult to just get yolk. I tempered the egg with 150 degree milk/cream base, and heating the custard up to 175 so not sure why it got chunky?

My wife is a SAHM to our 3 YO and 1 YO, and since we had #2, she barely survives the days I’m working at the office. She uses a ton of screen time, and I honestly don’t know what all she does… I just know she complains and says how she can’t do anything to give them both the best experiences to help develop them.

But on the few days she works a month, I’m able to take them out, manage both of them, make sure the older one is engaged, and of course it’s not easy, but with my wife she takes forever to even be able to get out the house, that its too late to take them anywhere then… and they just sit around home struggling. I mean she doesn’t even cook or clean, we outsource that, she does dishes (and me too), her/kids laundry (which js always a mountain), and regularly straightens up, that’s about it.

I really feel like she just can’t handle being a good SAHM with 2 kids, and give them a nurturing environment. I don’t know how to bring it up to her, but I think we need to send the to a school/daycare we like and just have her work full time…

I want to start an ice cream company, and I’m testing out recipes at home using a Whynter machine, but one thing I wonder is if I do fully start up and expand, will my ice cream turn out the same in a large commercial machine, whether it be one of those large 20-30k machines that spits out ice cream, or through a co-packer and whatever massive machines the are using?

Or would I need to adjust my recipe for the commercial production?

For some background, I’m the sole provider in our family and my wife stays home with the kids (3 and 1), we don’t have any plans for her to start working at least for another 10 years.

I started my career in Big 4 audit and stayed about 3.5 years, had my first kid about 1.5 years in, so was never able to save up a ton, and as soon as I started making a bit more as a senior, we had a ton of new expenses with the newborn. Dipped out of big 4 as a senior when my first kid was 2 because I couldn’t put my family through the hours I was going to have to work, and have been working in industry as a senior for about 1.5 years, had our second kid about a year ago. My WLB has been great in industry and am able to give tons of time to my kids and help my wife, and total comp is pretty high for a senior in MCOL at 130k so we’re doing ok, nothing lavish, but I can’t help but feel stuck and that I’ve really stunted my financial and career progress. Like it might take another 2-3 years just to get to manager and then who knows how long to senior manager and director… and the salaries associated with those titles. And the only way to get those titles and higher pay is to jump back to Big 4….

Now I’m pretty firm in my views that it’s best for my kids and family to have my time, and that’s more valuable than whatever more money can get them, kids don’t care about the size of their house, things they have, etc… but it’s hard to feel that sometimes when I know I could make more and progress myself… plus sucks just renting a house and not owning your own thing, and not being able to save as much as I’d like and go on some nicer vacations and just have more cash on hand for day to day things…

Feel like it’s impossible to have both in my situation and what makes it unique is I had kids early in my career, whereas if I waited until I was a big 4 manager/senior manager and got a nice cushy job in industry as a manager-director making 150k-200k+ that would’ve been great!

I hear a lot about chill senior jobs in industry, myself included, I’m only working 20-25 hours a week. But are there people out there with chill manager jobs working 35 hours or less per week, at a chill pace?

I want to progress my career to manager, director, etc… but if I’m only going to make maybe 25-50k more by doing that but working 40+ hours, then I feel like I’d rather have my time back as a senior and just do something on the side with my free time to make that extra cash