Hey, im m29, went onna date with f27
We had known each other for a while through work and I have had a huge crush on her since meeting her at a work christmas party.
Asked her out and finally we went on a date, cinemas and dinner after. We had been texting a lot beforehand and I was excited. I held her hand in the cinema and it was awesome as hell, interlocking fingers and i could see her smiling much like I was. Sweaty hands got the best of us as it was a bit warmer, but anyway as we got out I had my arm around her shoulders and we went out to get something to eat and chat. Bevause of her dietary restrictions I asked her if she wanted to pick, but couldn't decide when I suggested places so I just said alright pizza. Done.
We went and got pizza and we sat outside and ate, we chatted for ages without realizing it got late, I held her hand more and even kissed it which made her blush and smile. Even talking about future things we could do together like deer sighting and movie marathons
We went back to my car and I kept holding her hand. We arrived at hers and I got out of my car to say goodnight, she said "ill give you a hug" and then i hugged her, pulled back and looked at her to see if she wanted to kiss, she turned away a little and I said "no kiss on the first date?" She said "no" so I went okay. Then said "wait" and gave her a kiss on the cheek, which she seemed okay about.
She messaged me later saying she had a lovely time on the date. I said I had an amazing time and her smile made my week and I couldn't wait to see her again. She said "you made tonight a fun one, im sure we will see each other again soon"
Now, the next day I text her saying about something she told me as a passing mention on the date and she was surprised I remembered. Now, she did actually mention her birthday was on monday too. Anyway, I say to her im hanging out with friends and she says have fun. I send her a message later randomly asking if she has any food allergies. The reason was as i was going to bake some biscuits for her birthday but they have nuts in them. Then i also asked her for her favourite chocolate.
Anyway, this is when I felt her pulling back a little, messages were few and far apart.
Anyway, i just wanted to confirm her birthday was Monday as I didn't want to feel like an idiot if I missed it. I asked her, and she said it was still early on so I didn't need to get her anything for her birthday. I said i got her a little something, from context clues obviously it's chocolate and something food related. anyway, i asked if i could drop it off after work, she said she was busy and said I could give it to her next time I see her. I said speaking of next time we see each other how about a date on Wednesday night? About 5 days after our first date. She didn't reply, I sent her a birthday message saying happy birthday beautiful and then no reply but a react only.
Then today she sends me a message saying "I dont see this developing further than something platonic."
What did i do wrong? Was i too keen with the present? Again it was literally a small box of chocolates that I haven't even given to her yet.
I haven't responded to her message yet as I don't know how to, I still want to see if I can recover this.