I posted here a couple weeks ago https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/rnwEN18cL1.
After waiting to see if she would even bother trying I finally gave up yesterday. Basically I said to my WW, either we get into therapy or we move on. She wouldn't do it, so we are going to seperate.
I don't really know how to feel. It sucks but I still love her. I can't just turn it off like she did, I wish I could. We talked logistics a bit afterwards and she really has not thought about the consequences to the kids, our financial situations or her work (she's a shift worker).
Anyways now we need to live together until I can find a place close enough to the kids school. It sucks. It really sucks. We are on weirdly good terms despite my pain, and I know that's completely because of my effort not hers. She's moved on, she doesn't understand the pain she's caused. She's talking about how she still wants us to do Christmas together etc etc. I think one day, for the kids sake, I could do that. But God it hurts to not be seen or understood by them. They do so much damage and then just walk away and leave us to try and fix the heart ache and pick of the pieces. Like, there's no justice in any of this and there never will be.
I don't know what I need right now. But it's shitty living her, having to co-parent with her and try to get along for the kids. Yeah, some day, I hope we can do a good coparenting modern family thing but right now. Fuck it feels like she is getting what she wants, stomping on my heart and getting away with it.