How to figure out "the one"
Hi!
New to this subreddit. Curious to know how those who experienced CEN figured out their partner was “the one"- was it physical attraction, emotional safety, personality or a combination of all? Did it start from physical/general attraction and then grow into emotional safety or was it the other way round?
I was in a relationship with someone I was physically and intellectually attracted to, but emotionally things didn’t pan out. I was also with someone I felt emotionally very safe and validated with due similar childhoods, but I eventually realised I wasn’t physically attracted to him.
Since recently realising that I’ve gone through CEN and have symptoms highlighting C-PTSD, I have felt that having an emotionally understanding partner matters more to me. But now I’m confused about how important physical attraction is in comparison.
Would love to hear other people’s experiences.