u/AG_Squared

We have tried probably 6 different local dedicated gf bakeries. Theres 2 of them that I do well with, the other 4 consistently give me diarrhea. Feel good foods brand always gives me diarrhea. Certain restaurants gf options give me diarrhea, while others are fine. I can have the gums and the husks and whatnot in certain things, so I don’t think that’s it unless maybe it’s the quantity? But the last 2 restaurants that gave me issues it was gf pasta so minimal additives if any. I don’t seem to have issues from what I cook but I don’t cook well. Actually that’s not true, I made bean and ham soup that destroyed my stomach. But this is all very different than when I eat gluten, 2 distinct issues and it’s happening from dedicated gf places and brands. And it’s not dairy, although I have some issues with straight milk I can eat my weight in cheese and have no problems. I don’t think it’s fiber, I eat high fiber day to day without issues. Maybe fat? But not everything fatty gives me issues.

My boy is planned to come out at 34 weeks (currently 30 weeks now with vasa previa) unless there's an emergency before then, nothing compared to a lot of you and I don't want to take away from that at all. I work in a PICU/NICU step down situation so I already have some idea but I feel like being a patient and parent will be totally different, especially as a first time parent.

I packed a bag for him with preemie swaddles, preemie 2-way zip onesies, some preemie snap onesies, preemie hats/socks/mitts, and a couple blankets (I know safe sleep but idk I tossed them in there just in case). Should I pack anything else for him? I'm going to label it all with his name whenever we pick a name...

Is there anything we should know or do? Now, or while he's there?

I assume nobody will be allowed to see him for a minute after he's born right? My mom can't make it to my surgery so we're trying to decide if we need somebody else at the hospital to be with me in recovery and with him in the NICU. I know the nurses are great in theory, but I don't want to be alone, and I want to know what's going on with him too.

I asked my husband if he wanted to tour the NICU beforehand but he said not really. We do want to meet the neonatologist while I'm inpatient before my c section. They told us to expect 48 hours minimum, probably a week or so because at 30 weeks he's "only" 2 pounds so they expect him to be small for his age even though he doesn't have IUGR that they've identified.

Do we have any recourse or are we fucked? The fridge is rusted, leaking, and has black mold in it so it’s been leaking, the toilet just started spewing water and flooded my first floor, the HVAC isn’t working well, the shower floor has cracks in it, and the yard keeps getting wet even though it’s not raining. I’m about to call a plumber have no fear but oh my god you mean the inspector found “nothing but some loose bricks”???

Edit- first time home owner/buyer so yeah I’m clueless and I’m in a very high risk pregnancy so no I didn’t participate in anything my husband handled it all while also working overtime to make up for my lost hours, and the seller pushed up the closing date by 2 weeks so we were rushed, I did a quick walk through but wasn’t looking for mold under the fridge, yes we had to move in the middle of this pregnancy because our lease was up and we weren’t able to renew, no the inspector said we couldn’t walk through with him, my husband arrived to do a final “walk through” and the guy had left “had another appointment couldn’t wait,” the inspector was recommended by our realtor.

I’m great at a lot of things but I know nothing about anything that’s going on, we were rushed and no I wasn’t part of the process other than a quick walk through to see if it had enough space. I’ve been restricted since February to make sure myself and my baby don’t die.

Drove an hour to get 2 loaves of fresh gf sourdough since I’m about to give birth and I want to freeze them for after when I won’t be able to make the drive. What’s the best way to preserve the integrity?

I guess this is normal? Our thermostat is set to 70, and downstairs is cool and comfortable but halfway up the stairs you can feel the air become stuffy and warm. Our bedroom and office are uncomfortably warm, my dogs are panting more than I’ve seen them pant so I know it’s not just me. We have a fan in every room, 2 in the bedroom, and sleep with windows open when it’s less than 70 outside but we live in the south so that’s about to be done here for several months. The sun doesn’t directly hit the windows for these rooms, maybe in the evening for a couple hours but not the rest of the day, I can put some curtains up anyway if that’ll help but we have good blinds. It’s a townhouse so we can’t have a window unit… I’m seriously considering a portable that drains into our shower, if there’s nothing else we can do? Do I need to get the HVAC looked at? We’ve been here 10 days and I’ve only ever rented before…

My therapist immediately said what I’d been thinking: “you may need to change your job.” I told my husband I may have to switch units or specialties altogether, depending on how traumatic birth and nicu are.

TLDR I’ve got vasa previa and an accessory lobe to my placenta so they have to keep me inpatient for several weeks before they do a c section at 34 weeks which I was told (of course) is an automatic NICU admit, and while I don’t know much about l&d, my MFM doc is acting very concerned so I’m taking her seriously. I can picture both ends and what’s in between- everything going smoothly as planned, no complications and he stays 2 days, we go home and he’s great. I also see the other end where he ends up on my unit with a trach or RAM and an NG, where they have to do a stat c section because my water broke and we’re all bleeding out… I feel like I might not be able to go back to work into the NICU/PICU if that, or something else, happens.

I’m absolutely not here for advice on my condition or my son, we’re covered and comfortable with our team. I’m more worried about, did you have PTSD from a medical event and were you able to go back to work?

We moved and my favorite bakery with actually good bread and pastries is 55 miles. One hour. One way. So a 2 hour 100 mile trip. And i can do that in a day but man that feels unreasonable to drive 100 miles for a loaf of bread and some pastry… I found a local place but they don’t do bread, just desserts. They’re good, but sometimes I want good bread. I can always get a second loaf and freeze it, they actually sell their loaves fresh or frozen… I wish we could make a day out of it but there’s not much to be done in the area. Sometimes I stop at an indie bookstore. Sometimes we stop at a gaming store. I’m about to have a newborn so hours in the car suddenly feels much less feasible anyway.

I have had a Costco membership for years and love the gluten free options they always have. But we moved and the closest is half an hour away, which means I’m very unlikely to go. I was going once a week or more because it was right by my house but a 30 min trip one way with a newborn is not happening. There’s a Sam’s up the street from us though, is there anything there worth pursuing? I feel like I only see Costco talked about, especially for gluten free finds.

* I know Sam’s carries feel good foods but that brand tears me up so anything other than that. I really like Costco for the rotisserie chicken, produce, brazi bites, etc.