I'm 29. I've been single since my early 20s, been on a few dates but they didn't really go anywhere.
I don't really understand what the deal is as to why it has been so sparse and just straight up poor trying to find anyone, be that in London or the South East in general.
I'm not super interesting to be fair but certainly not boring either. I work full time, go to the gym and exercise, play instruments for fun, go out, have interests and hobbies and try to be kind and supportive of friends and others.
I would say I'm just a fairly normal person, and yet not really anything happens for me. Is that just how it is? I've had advice that oh it will happen for you but I have been actively looking for over 8 years and working on myself the whole time and can't even get a match. I want to keep trying but I think this is more or less a sign to just pack it all in and move on with myself.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? What more can I do? Are there things you found or changes you made that improved things for you?
Alternatively, what sort of things put you off othrers as an individual? I think these two things are likely to be the most beneficial information for me.
Edit: to add, I identify as ACE spectrum, so I am very platonic in my actions and expectations of dealing with people when I first meet them. Is this something that could have an impact and if so what kind? If this is the issue it is very likely not something I can change. I'm not the sex or affection averse type，I just don't feel it frequently or easily if that helps? I have had relationships before [7 years & 1 year] and felt these things fine in these instances. I would really appreciate any insight from allo people on what things make you not want to be with someone or what things make it clear to you that somebody else doesn't.
Thanks!