u/ADHD_unknown

I (f22) used to go to a church where the people there helped me out a lot. The church is in a backwoods area with mainly members older than 65. I joined it when I was 13 and the community was there for me. They picked me up every Sunday and brought me back home. My parents weren't religious but I was. They help me get supplies for school when my mom was going through cancer treatment. Helped my friend with women stuff when her single father didn't have the knowledge. Dinner every month. When I grew up and got a job I provided stuff for the Sunday school, and support for the younglings. I then grew up, moved away to town. But technically I was still part of the counsel due to how much money I put into the children's church. (Young and didn't actually need a job so it was a lot.) I received a letter a few years ago that made it clear they was leaving the church group and joining a different one due to that group accepting same sex marriages. I being not straight, a friend group that is mainly gay people, and having a family member that was married to a woman my whole life. Saw where I was no longer welcome and just stopped communicating completely. It wasn't hard seeing as I wasn't an active member for a year at that point. Now they have been reaching out to me to get me to come to the home coming event. I don't know how to handle this. I don't want to be mean since they did so much for me, but I don't think accepting hate is a good thing either. Normally I just ignore it, but they have also been reaching out to my parents. So I am at a crossroads, do I just come out and say the reason? Or do I just ignore them? My mom is pushing me to continue a relationship because of how much they helped out. I don't think I really owed them anything because I've already did my possibly community if everything I helped out with. Is there any advice? Should I just up and say why I left and just went silent out of nowhere?