u/888sirkl

me ‘21 F’ has been dating my ‘21m’ boyfriend for 9 months now and we haven’t had much sex recently because of stress and other issues which we have gone over and it came down to him dealing with premature ejaculation which has only ever been an issue maybe 3 times. We had just stopped having sex for a 3 months and naturally i had started to become quite disconnected and thinking it had something to do with me and my body. We had sex recently and he suggested we use condoms . He has been overly insistent on speaking to a sex therapist and trying all these different methods but something in my gut tells me he has been cheating since i never really saw premature ejaculation as an issue. I got very defensive and i regret it. my mind started accusing him of watching porn and not being attracted to me . He has always told me he never watches porn but after further discussion he admitted to watching it maybe 4 times . Since he wasn’t transparent about the porn my mind is starting to think he is not being honest with me and he has been seeing someone else in the 3 months he refused to have sex . i feel as though my mind is making up scenarios and driving me mad . i want to believe him and be there for him but the lack of sex and walls built up on either end have been driving us further apart. The last thing i want is for me to become ultra accusatory and suffocating. I wonder what necessary actions to take to heal this?