Okay so here's some background information | (27F) and my husband (26M) live in a small town in the Midwest.
My FIL and his wife live in the same town, but my MIL lives a little over an hour away. My MIL let's call her, Angie, has always been very unpredictable. Growing up she shared custody of my husband with her ex. She was on drugs, and was quite literally a drunk. I could go into more details but if any of my family reads this they will know.
Okay so when my husband was a child, he would wait outside for hours to see his mom, on her weekends. She would either never come or be 3+ hours late. She lived the next road over.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years and this has become a pattern; she will text me and make plans for a day to come over, like a week in advance. I check in with her a few days before, and yes she's still coming. Then the day of (really 1 hour- 30 mins) before she's supposed to be here she cancels, and "reschedules."
This has happened about 6 times this year, counting December of last year. The only time this year she's actually shown up is when I paid to take everyone to an NBA game the next state over. But even then with 6 months of planning she shows up over an hour late...... I made it very clear for the whole 6 months that we had a very specific time we needed to leave, considering it was almost 4 hours to the game.
Anyways, here's some more information as to why I want to stop her from coming over. My Husband has a half sister.
She lived the next town over, but it's south of us. If you guys know anything about the Midwest you have basically one main road that connects all the towns. After she cancelled about 3 times, she posted on Facebook, that she spent the day with her daughter and her kids. Which is cool, whatever. But you have to drive right past our house.
Like you cannot get to the daughter's house without passing ours. Same thing for her childhood best friend. All the while she's rescheduling with us.
This breaks my husbands heart. He already can't see his dad since he does OTR driving. Every time she's supposed to come he wakes up excited to see her and asks if I spoke with her. Every time I say no, she's probably still sleeping.
He gets ready for the day and waits on her since I have to add this 🙄 he’s not standing at the windows or door. He’s just excited to see her. just for her to cancel 5 mins later.
She is supposed to show up today, in less than 2 hours and we haven't heard from her. If she cancels again today, ! want to tell her she will not be allowed back. Would I be the Ahole. Please bear with me, if I missed any details. This is my Ist post.
A little more information: My husbands dad ended up with full custody when he was 6, and he moved cross country. He visited his mom when we could. We have since moved back, so she has unrestricted access to him. You’d think think after so many years; she would want to make
Up for lost time.