u/78unicorn

My avoidant ex ended things via text message a week after disclosing he slept with his first cousin (someone he had grown up with and was close with) at a family reunion 8 years prior while his wife at the time and kid were asleep in the same hotel. I was shocked by the information but he also has a deep history of some non-mainstream fetishes. I realize this was NOT a healthy partner for me in my rational mind. My heart has made it difficult. I had convinced myself to look past the cousin and be accepting of the fetishes. I had been supportive of him and we were planning for the future, he told me all the things I now read about "I realize now I've never been in love before you...." "You can trust me..." "I want to be with you forever....", all of these things as recent as 24 hours before the discard. Then boom. The switch flipped. He was a completely different person. No discussion, just "I need to work on myself and focus on therapy" within a day he was back to his ex. This has been the most brutal break up. I've never experienced anything like it. It has made me react like someone I don't know. Not sure why I am posting other then to vent in a space where others understand.