u/73shay

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/NOSjpIyakV

This happened three years ago and my daughter "Mallory" still resents us for this. I'm asking now because my son is going to be starting the eighth grade next school year, permitting that schools will reopen again and this event isn't cancelled.

At my kid's school, there is a big annual spring break trip to New York City and Washington D.C. It's something that most of the kids, including my own, were looking forward to. When Mallory started the sixth grade, she talked about wanting to go on the trip. We said she could, so long as she got good grades and didn't get into trouble.

When she was in the seventh grade, her aunt Linda got engaged and set her wedding date for the following year. This was going to include a big family reunion with all the relatives because Linda was the last of my siblings to get married (big fat Catholic family), many of whom we haven't seen in years. Unfortunately, Linda planned her wedding to take place the same week as Mallory's 8th grade spring break.

We ended having to tell Mallory that she couldn't go on the trip afterall because everyone was going to be going to the wedding instead. Like I said, this was going to include a family reunion, and it may be the last time we got to see some relatives including her great-grandparents for a long time.

Mallory was heartbroken. We offered to take a family trip to New York, but she turned it down because she wanted to go with friends and not family. Understandable.

Cut to the week of the wedding a year later. We flew out to New Mexico for the ceremony and crash at my sister's (not the bride's) house. Mallory is still upset about having to be in New Mexico when all of her friends are in New York. A few days before the ceremony was to take place, Linda called off the wedding.

Mallory was furious. I can still remember her blow up. She screamed, "so I missed my trip for nothing?" and stormed off into the room she was sharing with her cousins and wouldn't let anyone in.

It was a mess afterward. I tried to cheer Mallory up by offering to take her sight seeing or go see a movie with her cousins, but she refused. I gave up after she refused to go to the movies with us, saying that she didn't want to watch a 'dumb kids movie with a bunch of babies' (while she is the oldest of the cousins, the next nearest cousin in age was nine at the time). Mallory refused to speak to us during the flight back. To this day, she's still angry at her aunt Linda.

I know Mallory was upset, but no one could have predicted that the wedding would be called off. We have tried to make it up to her, but she has refused every offer. I know she wants a trip with her friends, but that New York trip is expensive and many of her friend's parents were not willing to spend more money on another outing for the girls.

Because of this, Mallory thinks I am an asshole. Am I?