Hi everyone! I could use some advice. I‘ve been invited to an old classmate’s wedding, and I would love to go. I went on the wedding website to RSVP, and they mentioned that there’s no need to plan for rides back to the hotel because there will be “carriages.”
I am VERY allergic to horses. If I get near them, I will cough and sneeze. If I touch them, I get hives up my arms and difficulty breathing. The reaction gets worse every time. I even have trouble being in a room with people who have recently touched horses— I cough and sneeze, and if they touch me I’ll get hives there.
I don’t have an epi pen— horses are pretty easy to avoid. But I am worried about the use of the word “carriages” on the site— to me this indicates there may be horses, and there isn’t any info about when or where they will be. If the reception venue is indoors and the carriages just arrive outside at the very end, then I should be able to simply leave before the carriages arrive or keep away from them outside. If the reception is outdoors, it will depend on how close they are. And if they intend to have horses at the end of the night, does that mean they will be present earlier? If the wedding party arrives via carriage and/or takes photos with horses, I’ll probably just send my regrets.
Should I reach out to my old classmate and ask for details? I hate to be difficult, and I don’t want to seem like I’m questioning/critiquing their choices. Should I just RSVP no?