Hi, just want to get a different perspective on this. I’m (30F) in a new-ish relationship with my bf (31M), have known each other for about a year, dated for about 6 months, and officially together for 3. We get along well and have a lot of fun together, also have a lot of things in common and I’m pretty happy.
We have slightly different love languages though. I am a very physical person and love getting hugs, and kisses, and just casual physical affection is very important to me, whilst it’s not really something that he thinks about. He has mentioned that he doesn’t mind it and he does do it when I ask but sometimes I feel too needy when I do ask.
I got out of a long term relationship 2 years ago and sometimes I compare the two. Since my ex and I basically spent our 20s together, we grew up together and discovered what we like together so this was never an issue. The physical affection was also his love language and I got plenty without asking, so this is new territory for me.
I understand that I should not be comparing and people are different but I just realised how important this is for me, but I also don’t want to make my new bf feel like he’s not enough but at the same time, it’s just nice to be hugged / kissed out of nowhere and be made to feel like he is excited to see me.
Has anybody been on the same boat and how do you go about it? I know communication is key and I’ve expressed it to him before, I think it literally just doesnt cross his mind.