AITAH My (26M) girlfriend (26F) and her family expect to me drive her everywhere.
My (26M) girlfriend (26F) and her family expect that I should drive her wherever she wants because she cannot.
She and her twin have received their drivers licenses' a while ago but never took time to actually gain comfort driving or spend money on a car so I am the only one who can drive of the three of us while we are in another state and away from family for graduate school. This includes all times we go out for grocery shopping, dinner, movies, events, airports, legit anything.
When it's just for me to take her somewhere, I really don't mind when it's nearby things but she often expects me to drive her to inconvenient locations that I wouldn't be staying at and would essentially have to make 2 round trips for (back & forth to drop off & pick up). Again, when it's closeby places that wouldn't take more than 30 mins round trip that's fine but it often feels like the requests are for more inconvenient places that would take 45+ mins (because that would be more costly from rideshare) but would ultimately end up in me losing 90-120mins or more of my own free time.
I'm sure it has something to do with me feeling like I'm the only one who can drive so the responsibility always falls on me, but I also know that when I make plans I always coordinate my own transportation (ie. when I'm visiting home without a car, I know that I would happily use rideshare if no one in my house would be happy to take me).
I think it's also been difficult because her mother (56F) always challenges her whenever she hears that I refuse/am hesitant to make these trips because "boyfriends drive girlfriends around". There are many other one-sided expectations that they have of me which also contributes to my feelings of awkwardness/upset, but again I just can't help but feel that this in unrealistic given that 1) my girlfriend is/has never driven me anywhere and 2) her mother has also never helped my girlfriend get anywhere for us (whenever we are/were home pre-grad school, I have to pick her up and drop her off for dates, holidays, family events, etc. and we live 40mins apart).
All in all it just winds up feeling like I am being used and when I try to bring this up it is made to be like I am not living up to the title of boyfriend, and thus in my mind failing at it. AITAH?
edit- Thanks for the feedback and responses! Apologies for not being able to explain all the nuance of our relationship but we are happy & balanced in essentially every other aspect; I honestly just wanted to see if this (driving gf around) was something others do or find reasonable. Appreciate the suggestions of saying "no" and while I could definitely do it more, the bigger issue for me is the feeling of guilt afterward (I'm a naturally guilty/anxiety-filled person). Your comments help me feel better about it though and will help me have a more mature & direct conversation about it. Enjoy the rest of your evenings!