u/5ennnifer

So as the title says right now, I am having an issue with my boyfriend about me going out. For some backstory, I do not go out and party. I have never been to the club and I’ve only been to a bar twice and we’ve been dating for 2 1/2 years. The issue began with me going barhopping w my friends for my birthday in a month. I mentioned it to him and immediately his demeanor changed, and he was clearly bothered. I asked him what was wrong and he told me that that’s not something he’s comfortable that and why can’t we just drink at home. I had previously had an issue over the same thing last year when I asked if it was okay for me to go to the club for my cousin’s birthday and he was not okay w it and was unwilling to compromise even when I suggested that he could come with me. He believes that since we are in a relationship that we should respect each other and not do these kinds of things. I told him it’s not like we’re 35 with two kids where we have to be at home all day. We’re both young and I think theres things we could experience together but he’s unwilling. He tells me it’s not about controlling but it’s a boundary that he has but I feel like he’s controlling me and already putting ultimatums on what I can and can’t do. I don’t live with him and I already feel like he’s putting rules in my life that I’ve never had before. Is this controlling or is this an issue where we simply don’t see eye to eye which makes us incompatible?