u/4dv3nture

Hi, I’m not really sure how to explain this, but I’ve been struggling socially for a while. I often fear judgement or rejection, and I find it hard to understand what I’m feeling at times.

I also deal with a lot of stress, even though I don’t always know what triggers it.

Growing up, I had a more emotionally distant father, and I think that has affected me in some ways.

Recently, I’ve noticed I don’t enjoy my hobbies as much as before, and I’ve been avoiding friends more. I feel a bit disconnected from myself and what I normally like.

I’m not in immediate danger or anything like that, but I feel like I’m slowly losing motivation and don’t really understand what’s going on with me.

Hi, I’ve been dealing with this friend for a while now. To be fair, he can be a decent guy, but he often makes me feel disrespected.

He struggles with taking “no” for an answer, and sometimes gets physical as a “joke“ like hitting me in the nuts. He also seems to have a hard time understanding boundaries or how his actions affect others.

For example, I had been talking to a girl for a while and I liked her. One day, without any warning, he shows up while I’m hanging out with some friends with her and her friend in his car, which was fine. But what really bothered me was how he treated me in front of her. He knows socially awkward and he still introduced me as a “pedo” as a joke and kept making comments like that, which made me look bad in front of her.

I don’t know if that’s his way of trying to be funny or impress girls, but it felt very disrespectful, especially since he knew I liked her.

He also seems to escalate situations quickly when things don’t go his way, and starts degrading others instead of just moving on.

Now I’m unsure whether I should talk to him about it or just distance myself. When I’m around him I often feel disrespected and kind of small.