Specifically cis heterosexual women and cis heterosexual men.
Last year I got into my first relationship. My boyfriend told me that no man wants to be just friends, and that there’s always an ulterior motive. I didn’t believe him, as I had male friends that I had never done anything with, we didn’t flirt, we were simply friends.
Then he told me that when I had first became friends with him and his friend, they had both been plotting on me from the beginning. This shocked me as I viewed them as simple friendships. Then I looked at my other male friendships. Why have all of my male friends either at one point said they liked me, or told me I’m pretty/attractive?
A guy I have known since I was a child, not close friends with, that I had always assured my boyfriend (at the time friend) was a friend came to me randomly on a night out confessing he’s always liked me. He flirts with everyone?? He said give me an answer when I’m sober, I’m going to think the same way. 2 days later, he actually felt the same!!
No man will be friends with a woman purely for friendship. Of course you can have a male friendship that is just a friendship, but prior or present ulterior motives will always be there.
I had a conversation last night with my mother and she had the exact same experience as me, was a friendly person, her boyfriend told her no man wants to only be friends, she only came to the realisation in her 40s now that he was right
Of course homosexual men are different. I only have 3 friends really and two of them are gay men, one a MTF transgender woman.
Saying this in the hopes of saving others time. I’m not saying to drop your male friends, or any of the sort. If you disagree with me, you’ll come to realise as well. If your man wants you to put some distance between you and your male friendships, look at how much he means to you, how much they mean to you, and make that decision. If you do cut them off and end up breaking up with your significant other after, there’s no doubt they’ll go back to being friends with you as they want to probably want to hit. No man becomes friends with a girl purely for friendship. If they did not find you attractive, they would not be friends with you. You are most likely not the sole outlier. Sorry