u/3squids

I (24F) and my girl (24F) recently got together over the past month and have been experimenting different ways to have sex. Personally, the thought of penetrative sex is extremely arousing and enticing to me and I want to try it, but I don't know if I'm actually able.

I've had a lot of pain with even inserting a menstrual cup, and once I bought a dildo yet no matter how much lube I used it was nowhere close to even getting inside me. The other day I asked her to finger me and even one finger was slightly uncomfortable.

I have an appointment with a gynecologist this week to see if it's vaginismus or something similar. If it is, I know that there's excercises you can do to treat the problem, but honestly that just makes me wanna cry. Like why do I have to do homework in order to feel pleasure? Should I just give up on my penetration dreams?

Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice is appreciated.

it was so epic i just gotta type out the experience.

i (24F) haven't been in a relationship in 3 years and haven't had sex since then either. i matched with a girl on tinder who's super pretty, smart, and well spoken, long story short we've been on 2 dates and she invited me over. we started a really nice makeout session, she's such a good kisser and she's so gentle and lovely... as i undressed she kept calling me beautiful and sexy and kept saying that she couldn't believe she got with me (meanwhile i'm like *i* can't believe i got with *you!*) she has small breasts but they're so great i really love them, she started sucking on my breasts and nipples and i swear she's so good with her tongue if she kept going i probably could've cum from just that. she offered to go down on me but i refused as i was on my period and i'm not into period sex, which she understood. i offered to do it to her and she had no qualms, so i got into position...

i was so nervous because it had been so long i was afraid i'd be really bad at it. but i gathered my courage and put my mouth on her pussy... and my god it was instantly addicting. she was already so dripping wet... i sucked on her clit and flicked my tongue all over, and she let out the sexiest moans i've ever heard. i started to fuck her with my tongue and it was such a pleasurable experience for me that i could tell i was getting wet and was humping her mattress. i reached up to grab her tit as i continued. this went on for about 10-15 minutes... both of us in fucking heaven... and then she starts to hyperventilate and arch her back, moaning louder and grabbing all over my arms and shoulders as i looked her dead in the eye as she came on my tongue.

i think i'm a real certified eater now. i wanna do it again so badly. she tasted so good and i can't wait to see her again.