Me (19M) and my bf (19M) have been dating for 3 and a half years now! However, there is a persisting issue where i feel lowkey neglected with the way he treats texting. We don’t live together yet, and i see him almost every day as we are in the same class in college.
Im always left on delivered, i most of the time have to text first, sometimes itll take him 2-3 days of me being on delivered to reply to me and when i see him irl, he’ll just pretend like the 10 messages i sent him (about literally anything) dont exist.
Ive brought this up to him many times, and he always says he understands, how he’ll try better, he’ll start calling me and be more consistent yada yada. And thatll work for a few days or a couple weeks, until we’re back in the same place where i feel like an idiot for messaging him. Even when i need him as emotional support, or for any other reason.
He has told me he hates texting many times before and i fully understand that and do not expect him to be at my every beck and call 24/7 nor text me all the time (god forbid) but itd be nice to open our chat and not see the last 20 messages are not replied to and completely ignored.
I usually try my best to be fine with it, but shit man is it that hard to reply or text first once in a blue moon? To initiate plans or a hangout? To say hello (my name) how are you today? 😭 i want to emphasize i love my bf and our relationship is amazing but this really pisses me off and idk how to bring it up to him anymore arghhhb
TLDR; my (19m) bf (19m) has a difficult time reciprocating text conversations and it bothers me.