AIO about how I feel In my relationship
So I’ve known my bf for 10 years we’re in our early twenties (21 Me; 22him) dated on and off throughout our teens and while we’ve been together 🤞 for three years now as adults I find that I really just don’t want to be with him anymore at all. And he’s not a bad guy in fact he drove 20 hours to live with me. While I did also pack up a move across states to be with him I feel driving such a length is more of a hassle than airport. He gives gifts when he can and pays for things when he can.
One problem is that I work a lot more than he has since we started living together last year. He’s been unemployed twice and the first time last a month or so and the second time lasted almost three (technically there was a third time he’s been unemployed which is when he moved out here and was unemployed for a month also until I got him a job where I work) He just graduated last year also and really wants his adult job. So he applied for those mostly while he was unemployed but had no luck. I understand it’s hard to get a job in the major you finished but having a job in the meantime is important too and he doesn’t want to do manual labor or go backwards as in fast food and retail which to me is crazy.
Another problem is something that we both had declared resolved, but with the way he acted afterwards it made it extremely hard to forget. (Pictures for reference)
So for better context I was offered a job and when I packed up and moved back home they decided not to go through with the job which in turn prompted him to ask when I’d return to him even though I told him before, THREE TIMES, because I had no money and no job it wouldn’t make sense to do that.
I wanted to end it there but i thought that would be immature? Anyways after this he’s been very sensitive and emotional about things the following months since and it’s has been weird. For example i took the hearts out of his contact name afterwards cause i wasn’t really feeling it, now personally i didn’t want to see hearts next to his name after that mess but he took it soo far imo, he got upset with me saying they had been there forever and that he didn’t think the situation was necessary for that. Again, personally i did. Another example is how we say ILY, he sometimes says “I love you” and mostly says “love you” and I always say “i love you (too)” so, yes a bit out of pettiness, once he told me “love you” I responded with “love you too” and he decided to text it again with “I” this time.. i waited a bit before saying it back but I did cause I’m not great at being petty for long😔
Another problem is he is lowkey rude. Now im not the nicest person either but i do that jokingly if that makes sense (like talking abt each other for the funnies yk?) but sometimes he says things and im just like wtf if your problem?
Examples:
One day he asked my opinion about commute times and I told him anything after an hour I won’t be happy and he says “you’re opinion isn’t valid you’re never happy” (like wtf I’m not walking around with
a stick up my butt 24/7)
I wanted to start a little candle business and I can’t remember the name I came up with something like EuphoricSmells and he laughed at it. Now I understand it’s not the winner but I mean really?
During the three months we were long distance again, he had practically begged for my attention and even I said yeah youre right I should be more talkative and stuff, and like a week after that he started be dry and I got started get sad then I got pissed because..wtf(maybe not rude but very annoying)
If I’m telling a story he’ll shut me down just because I’ve said it before even though he does the same thing and I may not pretend it’s new information but I don’t shut him down because of how I feel when anybody does it to me
I also kind of feel bad breaking it off because this wouldn’t be my 1, 2, or 3 time telling him I don’t want to date (AGAIN, those first few times were when I was in middle and high school) but the difference between this time is he decided to come back after telling me I should move on. (I was 18 at that point)
When we first started dating again (3 years ago) this time he randomly said I love you and I said it back ofc but the next morning I had asked why he decided to say that, because it was extremely unprompted it was like the middle of the night I think and his answer was he didn’t know and that was it, idk it just bothers me cause I at the time I could think of many reasons I said it it back.
This all has just building up because he’s only had a job for a couple days out of the month he’s been here,and he was unemployed when I left so it like…idk him not doing anything but stare at his phone and play games and bother me is just bothering me..I just feel bad making him come to me and now I know for sure I don’t like him
And s€xs sucks so bad..like so bad