How do you navigate inflexible values?
I have noticed that a lot of my issues in life primary come from a mix of high capacity for nuance, high metacognition, and rigid values system. Even in situations of extreme crises, I seem able to process multiple threads, focus on data, and resist the bystanders effect. Most friends around me are baffled by it and appreciate it, but I feel like those make life in hegemonic society a living hell.
People just expect me to follow stupid rules (eg: rulers know best, the herd must be prioritized, gender roles, shut up when drama happens, emotions are shameful, etc...) ...and I just can't. It's like being stuck in *Don't Look Up*.
Even when conflicts arise, I witness, try to retrace the steps, take multiple perspectives into account, build mutual empathy, explore creative solutions...but people seem terrified or insulted by this process. Almost as if they didn't care about resolution, but just wanted to lash out, blame, be 100% right and take their marbles to go home.
I pour all my care, love and respect into burning my brain for accountability, validation and problem solving and people project and want to make me the villain of their story.
I just don't know how to deal with that. I feel like I am turning cuckoo when it happens. Like everybody is in some sort of cult and I can't drink the kool-aid.
I can't hold any corporate jobs as a results. If I see a break in the framework, especially if it impacts me, I feel literal pain and *must* address it. And everybody gets offended and upset.
I am curious how you folk navigate that.