u/38CarPileUp

We keep getting attacked by others. I figured because we’re happy, keep to ourselves, we don’t show off, we’re peaceful people. For some reason people feel the need to bash us, try to set us up, actually try to curse us, and go out of their way to do weird things. It has taken such a toll. My husband is depressed after all the recent family deaths and two people trying to break our family up by spreading lies to others that he’s going to kill his family. Then best friend betrayal occurred on top of this. We’ve fallen into a parent child dynamic for a few years because he’s a sensitive man. I’m tired too. People still try to sabotage us and I can’t understand why. I’m pretty sure this isn’t normal. It seems like only his family and the people in our church support us. Other people try to sabotage our work, love life, etc… We pray often and it seems like he’s slipping further into depression and we can’t understand why. I wouldn’t assume that many people are racist. What’s happening? This is so hard on us and the children.

Oh my god…. 3 years of unexplainable allergic reactions. No one could tell me what was happening. 10s of thousands of dollars spent at the doctor, er, specialists, urgent care. That is wild that my nervous system knew before I did.

I cut them off about 10 months ago and wow… about 8 months into NC I already lost 20 lbs and my severe allergies went away. I didn’t even live with this person. I was so focused on my family and my own life, I didn’t see what my pwBPD was doing to me. She actually drained the life out of me with all the manipulation and need for constant attention.

I’m healing…. I’m going to get better.

I always knew my ex best friend was diagnosed with BPD. I always knew I was her favorite person. She started copying my life and stealing my ideas. She single handedly destroyed our 20+ year friend group and tried to convince everyone I was crazy for getting married to my fiancé of 4 years. I’m still trying to put together what happened. I do miss her and think of her quite often. I wonder what’s happening in her world since she rarely had an original idea in the last 6 years. She needed constant daily connection to me. I’m grateful I found this subreddit. I don’t know how our relationship turned toxic and how I was manipulated in my vulnerable moments. I don’t want to fall into this trap again. It was scary.