My boyfriend [26M] and I [26F] have been together for 7 years. We don’t live together however are planning on moving out this year.
Our last holiday together was in November 2024 when we went to Japan.
Since then, he has had a holiday with his friends in June 25 and went to Japan with his friends which I was also invited to and meeting up with them for.
We both play Sunday league so our weekends are quite busy.
Recently, his full soccer draw has come out and upon realising the long weekend is free, his mates have made a plan to go away that weekend and has said the girlfriends can come ( There is only 2 girlfriends out of a group of 12 boys, however we are all very close).
My boyfriend let me know and I said I was keen and started help looking for Airbnbs. I had messaged the other girl and asked if she was keen to go in which her bf had said it was ‘ i thought it only a guys thing’.
I told my partner to let him know however there was no direct message to this girls partner ( our friend ) and he has kind of gathered that this friend doesnt want his partner there.
My boyfriend said its then a bit weird if I come.
I feel pretty hurt by this for a number or reasons:
- I now feel uninvited and was looking forward to a trip
- My boyfriend and I havent gone away in 1.5 years together, despite me asking him to go away in Jan he didnt want to take time off work.
- His solutions are for me to take time off work and soccer to go away. Which is a but hurtful cause he wouldnt take time off work in Jan.
- He has suggested going away after Soccer finishes in September, however he will be going to a bucks party with the same group of friends before then & will have to stay home for 5 weeks whilst his family go away to look after his cat.
I should also mention that we both are contractors and do not get paid for time off work.
I have raised how I feel with him just to be called dramatic. I am really unsure how to move past this as I feel like my feelings are being put second.