something happened last week that’s been bothering me....
I’m 20, Indian, from a normal middle-class family. I live a simple life. I’m not into hookups or anything casual I’ve always believed I’ll wait for the right person, whenever that happens. Maybe that sounds old-fashioned, but it’s just who I am....
So last week I was in bus, and this guy probably in his 30s, from Portugal — sat next to me and started talking. At first it was normal, then he told me he was gay and started asking me where he could find guys for hookups. I told him straight up I had no idea about that.
When we reached, he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him.
I said no. Just a simple no nothing else....
And something about that flipped a switch in him.
He started going off on me, saying I look “disgusting,” making fun of how I dress even said that guys like me are illiterate and don’t know how to live true life. All because I said no.
I didn’t even respond. I just walked away. But honestly I cried all night....
I know people live differently, I am happy with my life compromise and hardships are part of life and I am ready to face overcome them even I did a lot all my childhood..
I’m not judging anyone for how they live or what they choose. But why is it so hard to just respect someone else’s boundaries? Why does a “no” turn into insult? Just because I'm indian guy he already decided that my life is already an failure. . .
I’m not ashamed of being simple. I’m not ashamed of my background, my color, or the way I choose to live my life.
Just wish people understood that different doesn’t mean less or worthless