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I recently learned that my boyfriend got his birth time wrong - he thought he was born 07:21, but turned out to be born 17:21... Which makes him an 8th house Aries moon and Virgo rising rather than 2nd house Pisces moon and Aquarius rising the way we previously thought.

It explains a lot. I've always joked about how I (12th house Aries moon, with squares to Jupiter and Neptune and an opposition to Chiron) am a thousand times more like a stereotypical Pisces moon than he is, while he's a thousand times more like a stereotypical Aries moon lol. He's very gentle with me, never raises his voice at me and is caring and affectionate - but he is impatient and does have a bit of a temper when it comes to other people, and can lash out in a disproportionate way just to be like "oops... I might have overreacted" five seconds later lmao. He's also very assertive, outspoken, confident and brave, in a way I've always admired... And it makes me feel safe and secure, as someone who is an indecisive, hypersensitive people pleaser that has a freeze/fawn fear response. He complements me in a beautiful way.

So... The Aries moon traits have never been an issue. What does make it kinda complicated are the 8th house moon traits. I'm an 8th house (Sag) sun, so I get a lot of it, but I lack the paranoid, suspicious and obsessive traits, the fear of losing control and rotation between impulsive and passionate intensity and fearful and defensive chaos. We've been together for 2,5 years and have known each other for almost 9, and he's still prone to panicking and becoming suspicious about me leaving or lying to him, which leads to push-pull behaviors, assumptions and poor communication at times, and he's recently betrayed me as some sort of self sabotage (though he told me right the way and is taking accountability).

So... I guess I'm wondering what 8th house moons need to feel safe, and how I should deal with his paranoia and inner turmoil. I've been gentle, patient, reassuring, nurturing, open, affectionate, respectful and consistent, which helps to a certain extent (he says he trusts me more than he's trusted anyone before, and he's way less guarded and suspicious than he used to be)... But not fully. I love this man and I wanna do all I can to be the kind of partner he needs and deserves, so any advice is appreciated. ❤️

Aquarius and Sagittarius are considered the "free spirits" of the zodiac. I agree for the most part, but Aquarians are independent and free spirited on a whole other level imo.

We both dance to the beat of our own drums, but Sag's rhythm is always adjusted to our external environment, the roles that we've been pushed on us and other people's expectations - while the Aquarian beat is completely unique and unphased by society's and other people's opinions and conventions. Us Sagis WANT our beat to be our own, but we can't always recognize the influence things have on us, and how they restrain and limit us.

I have a lot of Aquas in my life, and there have been a lot of times where I've talked to them about how uncomfortable and frustrated I am by having to follow certain expectations and norms that don't feel like me, and that just make me feel empty, uncomfortable or stuck. Ones I've just accepted, despite the fact that not doing it would be harmless... A few examples being dating and getting into relationships simply cause everyone else does it, despite being demi and needing a close emotional bond to develop attraction, the expectation to get married (I've always wanted a committed monogamous relationship, but have never found marriages romantic or meaningful - just a lot of time, energy and money wasted on an outdated tradition that was originally about the father passing on the "ownership" of the bride to the groom), and the expectation to prioritize and keep in touch with relatives I don't even like. The Aquas have been like "... Then why do it? You can just choose not to, and do what feels right to YOU. Who tf cares what others think?". Which always seems so obvious once they pointed it out, but those expectations have always been so deeply imprinted in me that I never even thought about it. They were also the ones that taught me that apart from potential children, we never owe anyone our presence in their lives, which was a game changer too.

I've found that I learn the most from the signs that come after us in the zodiac wheel, which I guess is cause every sign carries the wisdom from the previous ones along with their own... But Aquarius is the one of the three that truly fuels my fire through their air and helps free me from my phantom chains. I think every Sagi needs Aquas in their lives, to learn to be as free as possible. Because while we yearn to be free, we don't naturally know how on the same level that you do.

This isn't the MAIN reason why you're one of my two faves (you and the fishies), but it is one of them. I admire and appreciate y'all so much. ❤️

I'm a Cap Mercury, and my family consists of three earth (one of each earth sign) and one air (Libra) Mercury. Out of my close friends+partner, we have three earth (two Cap, one Taurus), three air (two Aqua, one Gem), two water (one Scorpio, one Pisces) and two fire Mercuries (one Aries, one Sag)... And yesterday I was hanging out with my neighbours - a Virgo Mercury and Taurus Mercury couple.

I can safely say that we're the goofiest Mercury element, and the least pretentious when it comes to humor. Not in the unfiltered way where we're blurting out shit without thinking it through, but as in everything from constant bad puns, dark jokes, immature jokes, sarcasm, interpretive dances, improvised silly songs, word play and self depricating humor. I'm aaaalways making fire and air Mercury folks roll their eyes at me, which is satisfying as hell.... There's amusement in their eyes when they groan and look at us like we're stupid, and they usually can't help but laugh after making it clear that they think it's corny, but still.

I hand pick my close friends, so we rarely hang out in groups, but all but one of them are close with at least one of the others too... And when we I do hang out with one of the earth Mercuries and one of the non-earth Mercuries together, it's always me and the other earth Mercury making bad jokes that make the others roll their eyes and sigh (and sometimes telling us to just kill them), while we're giggling like lil kids lmao. The same dynamics exist within my family - the three earth Mercuries being silly and corny as hell, while my Libra Mercury mom side-eyes us. And well... My Virgo and Taurus Mercury neighbours (one Libra and one Taurus sun) and I are silly af together, constantly laughing and goofing around about the dumbest shit. 😂

It's odd, because earth Mercury signs are stereotyped as rigid, pretentious and overly serious, which simply couldn't be further from the truth ime. We're fucking clowns.

Honorable mention to Mercury in water signs and Aquarius though, cause those four *usually* do match our energy and silliness (for the most part anyway), and seem to appreciate us for it lol