My ex has turned my kid against me.
I ended my marriage 6 years ago. My ex is a Narc, but he was so charming to everyone. He was funny and well-liked. We were together for many years, so nobody saw the divorce coming. I had been begging him to seek help for years. I even scheduled him mental health appointments, but he wouldn't go. He got with his current wife the year I left him. The abuse only continued to escalate.
Our child is now 12. She has been in counseling for 7 years. Her counselor had been legally documenting that he was coaching our child. He originally gave me 75% custody. He reopened the case two years ago and we were assigned a guardian ad litem again. The first thing he did was request that our daughter change counselors and Psychiatrists. She was also diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. She was on medication for it.
The GAL allowed him to pick the new providers. I'm fairly certain that he selected a counselor that they personally knew, as she has been very condescending to me every time she has ever spoken to me. He didn't inform me of when our child's first appointment was. He had the Psychiatrist take her off of her mental health meds, which is what started this spiral she has been on for the past 18 months. Her entire personality has changed. She has gotten in trouble at school, she has verbally and physically assaulted me, her grades have suffered.
On top of that, she has a very obvious issue with me. My own daughter no longer respects me. She is mean directly to my face, even if other people are present. She calls me names, tells me everyone calls me "crazy", said I'm embarrassing, trashy, the other parents don't like me, etc. She intentionally ruined my birthday. She refused to acknowledge that it was my birthday. She then berated me for 3 days straight about how I ruined her life by ending my relationship last year. All of this leads up to Mother's Day, which is this weekend.
A few weeks ago, I received an email with a gift receipt from a local jewelry store. I was very confused, because it happened in real time. I'm single. I was trying to figure out who could be buying me an expensive necklace. It was my favorite gemstone. I ended up calling the jewelry store and got my feelings hurt. My ex bought it, but not for me. My daughter picked out my favorite stone for her stepmom for mother's day. That leads us up to tonight. His wife texted me and asked if she's missing some inside joke. She said my daughter told them she wants to get me a carwash ticket for mother's day and she specifically told them not to get me anything else. I told her there's no joke. Birds often poop on my car, but I had it cleaned a few days ago, which my daughter knows, as I cleaned the interior and pointed out how clean her side of the car was. My kid hates me so much that she wants to ruin every special moment for me. I nearly died giving birth to her. I was confined to a bed for half of my pregnancy. That's the only reason she survived. Having her left me permanently disabled. I get a car wash coupon, so she can basically look down on me, while her step mom opens jewelry on Mother's Day. My own child is cruel and she is targeting me. What am I supposed to do?