Do you feel that your family's acceptance (or lack thereof) of your gender identity affects your relationship with your deadname and artifacts from your childhood?
My cousin came out as trans when he was 15. His whole family (parents, siblings, and most of the aunts, uncles, and cousins) have been very supportive. We accepted him as a boy and used his preferred name and pronouns right away. Five years later, as a young adult, he has the most casual attitude towards his deadname that I've ever seen. He mentions his deadname in casual conversations and seems to have no problem with showing people childhood pictures and old keepsakes with his deadname on them.
Most of the other trans people I know have a much more guarded attitude towards their deadname. They certainly wouldn't mention it in a casual conversation or show off childhood artifacts labeled with their deadname.
It made me wonder if people feel more uncomfortable about their deadname when their deadname has been frequently used as a show of disrespect. As in, someone whose gender identity is respected by their friends and family might feel fewer negative feelings about their deadname than someone whose deadname is regularly used to insult them.
Do you feel that your family's respect for your gender identity affects any positive or negative feelings you have towards your deadname and childhood artifacts?