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I broke up with him cause he was abusive, but now I wake up everyday with extreme anxiety and stress. It's hard to eat, drink and do anything. My stomach hurts, I have to go to the toilet as if I have IBS, and I am really tired, no matter how much I sleep.

I know this is the due to the trauma bond breaking and because I had to live with so much stress and abuse for a long time. But this is really hindering me in recovering.

Does anyone that has left an abusive relationship know when these physical symptoms tend to go away? I can't live like this, it gets in the way of everything.

Hey, i broke up not long ago with my ex. He was my everything.

Now, i'm scared i'll never find anyone that I find as physically attractive as him that also likes me, and that fits my other standards. Since the breakup i've become very self conscious and insecure about myself. About my appearance, job, education, age. If i'm good enough to have high standards at all.

I do not want to see anyone at this time, though i did have the idea to go on dating apps for validation, but I didn't cause that is not right.

I do not know how to move on without these thoughts that I will never find anyone completely taking over my mind. I am already sad and depressed over the breakup, and these catastrophic thoughts do not help me.

I want to decenter the thoughts about relationships and romantic attention from my life but idk how to go about it. I want to genuinely just be left alone and work through it, focus om my life. But these thoughts take over me. I read about so many cases as well where someone just ends up settling or never finding anyone and these stories scare me and make my spiraling worse.

All advice, tips, words, anything, is appreciated.