u/1mbr33zy

This girl I’m dating has a guy best friend. He has liked her in the past and I’m sure he still does right now. No one I know knows that me and her are dating. So people around us are telling me, not her, that the guy best friend is waiting for a chance with her. I’ve met the guy before and I’m pretty confident he still has lingering feelings for her. My gf however, refuses to acknowledge that. She has had a big fight with her ex over the same guy best friend. They smoke together, go to the same workplace, and he has made her dinner more times than I can count. I visibly display my discomfort about him to her but she dismisses it by saying she sees him as a cousin. I don’t like how close they are and I just needed to know if I’m the problem. Would it be crazy to say that I need her to limit everything with him because he’s acting more and more obvious that he likes her? He seems nice but I just don’t like how close they are. Reading this, I seem insecure. But I’m not sure how to go about so I’m turning to my fellow redditors. Any advice on how I would send her a message about my discomfort would be greatly appreciated.