AITAH for asking my brother to move out?
So I (39F) allowed my brother (38M) to move in to my spare bedroom back in September 2025. He was fresh off a breakup and refused to move in with our grandmother. The agreement was that he’d get a job, focus on regaining his independence, and move out as soon as he was able. I got him a new laptop to job hunt and work on other things like online school. I paid for all the groceries and other bills. Once he got a job, I gave him time to catch up on his bills and only asked him to start paying for his own groceries and half the light bill. He’s had this new job for seven months now. Apparently he’s doing well enough to take a weekend trip to Atlanta. He’s also started dating someone new and is barely home. Which means he’s been spending money on dates and whatever else.
A little more backstory: I’m a light sleeper, as I’ve lived alone for the past few years. My room is next to the kitchen. He has woken me up in the middle of the night because he’s in the kitchen snacking or talking on the phone. He’s destroyed some of my cookware and Tupperware. He doesn’t clean up after himself as well as he should. And I’ve talked to him about his cleanliness multiple times.
Well, at the beginning of April I told him that it’s time for him to find his own place. I even explained why I thought it was time. I asked him to try to get something signed by the end of April. Well, here it is in the middle of May and he’s making all these excuses about apartment complexes he’s visited. He’s also picked up a new habit of waiting until I go to bed to loudly whisper my name in the kitchen, then announce he’s getting water and ice. AITAH for asking him to move out since it seems like he has the means now, along with a lack of respect for myself and my home?