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Either you don’t work anymore or you work and get to spend your paycheck, id like to know how your life has changed and how you spend your time.

I’m a naturally frugal person. I think all the material thing is basically trash so unless it serves a purpose, I don’t buy. I’ve done lots of traveling in my 2030s so unless I’m traveling with my favorite people, it’s not appealing as much.

I don’t think I can quit my job unless I have plan how I will spend my life after fire. Im single 40 no child. So do not much really responsibility.

I’m tired of living this life. Can I lay down and rot for the rest of my life? Like become a hikikomori?

I’m in my mid 40 single. No one to take care of. I have saved enough to retire. I do gym, eat healthy, play a piano, read books as hobbies, have a high paying job. I keep all of them so I can look like a normal healthy citizen. I’m dying inside. I fight against negative thoughts non stop and cheer myself up by constant positive self talking. Choosing to be grateful.

All of these are tiring. I’m tired exhausted being a nice well citizen. I’m tired of faking to be ok. I am not ok.

We were friends for 2 years before we decide to date for 3 years. Then we kept in touch for another 4 years.

He and I didn’t find anyone. As I can’t find anyone, I guess I was growing this hope that we can get back together. I have hinted a few times about getting back together but he seems fine on his own and doesn’t really think much about dating.

It started affecting my mental health. Yes it is nice to keep him in my life as he is such a nice human being. And he has been a good friend to listen and talk to.

I feel like I’m being too desperate (which is sort of true) and it’s hurting my ego. I feel like if I keep this connection, I’ll show more ugly side of me. But then I’m not sure how to move away… he will think I’m acting strange. Should I tell him I have a boyfriend now and he doesn’t feel comfortable with me keep in touch with him? Or just slowly pulling away?

I do not want to have this serious talk about how I feel and that’s why I don’t want to talk to you etc.

I think it’s better we just don’t talk anymore perhaps.
I guess it had to end when we broke up. I thought it was nice keeping him in my life as I need a friend.

Any advice?

I’m not a native speaker but I went to college in the states and stayed ever since so over 20 years.

I have a high paying job in the states but I would like to have this for fun and hope to expand it later. You know how you start it as a hobby and it becomes your business.

Do I have a shot? My main audience will be adult learners who would like to have a conversational partner.

My rate would be $10. Can’t charge more considering my background. Does it have to be lower?

I’ll reach a 6 month mark in 2 weeks.
Yet I don’t feel quite back to normal. Yes I work out at a gym, walk 10k steps, back to work etc yet I still feel discomfort and pain in my ankle which tires me a lot and also compensate my back/knees. Pain level is 1-3? Like I don’t need a pain med but it’s still painful enough that I need a break.

I used to walk 30-40k steps on the weekends. I absolutely loved walking aimlessly for hours in the city. Now I can’t seem to do that anymore. I get tired so easily…

I wasn’t that happy prior to my injury. I will say I was dealing with a high function anxiety + depression. I would work, gym, eat healthy etc yet I was tired all the time. Now with ankle injury, I feel like my life got worse…

Is this my new normal? Or is there a potential for upside?

I do not want to be seen as single. Not because men approach or bother me but because I just don’t want to look pitiful and lonely.

Yes I am lonely and bored. I was totally fine being single until late 30s and I’m not anymore. I do want a life partner and I don’t want people to feel sorry for me especially at work.

I still have an engagement ring and wedding ring from my previous marriage. I’ve been divorced for over 12 years. Yeah I didn’t know I would still be single…

Would it too pathetic if I wear my ring at work and outside? Obviously I won’t wear when I go on dates.

I know it’s so sad… I just don’t want the way people look at me when they think I’m single. There is that stigma.

2/18 - 46.7kg. body fat 33.6%. Muscle mass 16.2%.

4/7 - 46.7kg. Body fat 31.9%. Muscle mass 16.9%

4/30 - 47.8kg. Body fat 31.6%. Muscle mass 17.4%.

155cm. In my mid 40s. My weight has always been around 45-47 since 20.

I’m just a cursed body with so much fat.

I’ve been exercising everyday and eat right… still I’m not seeing much result. Just want to give up and let it go.

It looks like I have to be 44kg to get my body fat down but not sure how it will impact the muscle mass.

In body result shows I’m over weight due to the body fat %. I know I have lots of fat but many people think I should eat because I look somehow slim to them(?) probably clothes over fat. I don’t know. This result is very disappointing and discouraging.

So jealous some people are born with a nice shape thin long legs and arms.