u/12-throwaway

I’ve brought up the topic of emotional disregulation and her need to use me to regulate herself with my (50s M) wife (50s F, undiagnosed BPD), and discovered that she interpreted that as me saying she was being “too emotional,” which of course is not what I meant by that at all.

I’m having trouble coming up with a good, simple explanation, and was hoping some of you here might have a suggestion.

Thanks!