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Last year I moved into my aunts house after the death of my mother left me displaced. (Single parent, dad isn’t an option here) I also lost my car in an accident and my lost serving job after the restaurant closed.But June was a rough month. I’ve only been able to land part time minimum wage work, I’m also a part time student currently employed through work study.

For clarity here’s everyone in the house. aunt 46f, baby daddy 47m, me 23f, aunts adult son 21m, aunts teen daughter 14f, child 7f. (Only 7f is his child)

My aunt and her ex own the house and split the mortgage. They bought this house about 5 years ago. Her ex feels that since there are four adults living in the house, he should only have to pay 1/4 of the mortgage.

My aunt knows I don’t have the money to contribute, and doesn’t want to set up her son making mortgage payments on her home when he could be saving and building his own life. Their relationship has been strained for a while now, but I worry that my presence is making it worse. Should I try to find someone else I can stay with? I also find it unfair (even if I were in the place to) to expect someone else to pay the mortgage on a home that isn’t theirs. Will he add mine and my cousins name to the deed? Will we get to treat the house like ours or do we still need to stay in a child’s place? (Of course we will lol) It’s just very tangled and messy and I don’t know what the best steps are for me moving forward.

I sat ex down and had a conversation a few months ago that I only work part time for little pay and that I just don’t have money to contribute, I understand he didn’t sign up to live with me, and that we aren’t family, but I want our relationship to be cordial. He said he understood. I can also understand that “I’m trying but can’t help” can get old after 9 months if he’s struggling with payments.

I try to help out around the house in other ways. Pitching into shared items, cleaning, and childcare. And I don’t ask them for money or anything. I buy my own food and all that, my aunt says the utility bills haven’t increased since I started staying here.

I literally feel like a bug. Like he said we were good and that his problem isn’t with me but keeps mentioning my name. I considered having another conversation with him but wonder if it’s even worth it. My aunt says I should just pay him no mind but it’s tough feeling unwanted.

Last year I moved into my aunts house after the death of my mother left me displaced. (Single parent, dad isn’t an option here) I also lost my car in an accident and my lost serving job after the restaurant closed. June was a rough month. I’ve only been able to land part time minimum wage work, I’m also a part time student currently employed through work study.

For clarity here’s everyone in the house. aunt 46f, baby daddy 47m, me 23f, aunts adult son 21m, aunts teen daughter 14f, child 7f. (Only 7f is his child)

My aunt and her ex own the house and split the mortgage. They bought this house about 5 years ago. Her ex feels that since there are four adults living in the house, he should only have to pay 1/4 of the mortgage.

My aunt knows I don’t have the money to contribute, and doesn’t want to set up her son making mortgage payments on her home when he could be saving and building his own life. Their relationship has been strained for a while now, but I worry that my presence is making it worse. Should I try to find someone else I can stay with? I also find it unfair (even if I were in the place to) to expect someone else to pay the mortgage on a home that isn’t theirs. Will he add mine and my cousins name to the deed? Will we get to treat the house like ours or do we still need to stay in a child’s place? (Of course we will lol) It’s just very tangled and messy and I don’t know what the best steps are for me moving forward.

I sat ex down and had a conversation a few months ago that I only work part time for little pay and that I just don’t have money to contribute, I understand he didn’t sign up to live with me, and that we aren’t family, but I want our relationship to be cordial. He said he understood. I can also understand that “I’m trying but can’t help” can get old after 9 months if he’s struggling with payments.

I try to help out around the house in other ways. Pitching into shared items, cleaning, and childcare. And I don’t ask them for money or anything. I buy my own food and all that, my aunt says the utility bills haven’t increased since I started staying here.

I literally feel like a bug. Like he said we were good and that his problem isn’t with me but keeps mentioning my name. I considered having another conversation with him but wonder if it’s even worth it. My aunt says I should just pay him no mind but it’s tough feeling unwanted.