u/10malesics

I am also a (cis) woman if that makes a difference to you all.

At the end of last summer my girlfriend became pregnant and decided upon an abortion. They do not regret that decision at all.

But they are struggling with how to process the pregnancy itself. It was extremely painful for them physically (retroverted uterus) and now if they feel any kind of normal cramping they get immediately triggered and sent back to that horrible horrible time in their mind.

My question is, how do you cope with the horror that is being pregnant? Something unwanted inside your body that is the most physically painful thing you've ever experienced? And what can I be doing as a partner to help them through this process?