u/0pinionatedcrafter

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Vent: I work full-time at a Catholic high school that is pretty prestigious and expensive.
My daughter is in daycare and it costs about 38% of my salary. I teach a specialized subject so technically I could tutor part time (AP Macroeconomics and AP History) but I have zero clients, and we’re going into a major recession right now.

Here’s the dilemma. I want nothing more than to homeschool my kids but I feel like I’m being selfish for wanting that for these reasons:

  1. I would stop being a financial contributor
  2. I am not trained in early child development like a Montessori teacher is.
  3. If I leave my job, there is a huge possibility my kids won’t be able to go to this prestigious school with all the opportunities it has. If I stay, it’s more likely we could afford to send my daughter here once she’s in high school, and I could even get a discount on tuition (but nothing is for sure)
  4. I feel like I would be screwing us out of retirement. How do you even plan for that without a company backing you?
  5. We’re for sure going into a recession. What happens if the economy gets worse and things get more expensive and no one hires me to tutor?

As a teacher, I’ve always known I wanted to put my kid in private school because of the smaller class sizes, but I don’t know if we could even afford that WITH my job. Here are the pros to homeschooling for me

  1. Control over the environment/ content
  2. The opportunity to see my baby learn and provide a stable learning environment for her to thrive in
  3. Save money on Preschool
  4. Save money on a car to commute to work
  5. Save money on wardrobe
  6. It would make me much happier

Edit because people in the comments are saying the only pro is for myself, I thought it was implied that this would be beneficial for a toddler to be with their primary attachment.
I really just want to homeschool while kids are young, becuase I want to encourage a secure attachment, and I want to be there for the best parts of her babyhood. I want to homeschool because I have taught in the public schools where I live. It is an affluent area, but the schools are pretty much paralyzed by the school boards and cannot make rules to keep kids safe/cannot seem to maintain healthy environments for it's students and educators.

I will HAVE to do private school in middle/high school for my conscience. I have taught HS seniors around Southern California and have yet to teach at a public school that I would trust to keep my kid safe.

I only have one but would really love at least 2 more kids! We will see though. I can see myself justifying this easily with the cost of childcare being so high.

Ideally I would love to homeschool until kindergarten/early primary school . But idk if it will set me back in my career, or if I will be able to work at my current job; is it even worth it for a short amount of time?

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u/0pinionatedcrafter — 8 days ago
▲ 18 r/AskAPriest+1 crossposts

I am a candidate going through OCA right now. Before joining the Catholic Church, I was a very zealous protestant. I went to a Lutheran College, and theology has become somewhat of an interest of mine, so I’ve been listening to more Catholic podcasts.

I recently started listening to Pints with Aquinas and stumbled upon this episode.

He has a priest talking about the 1960s as a relates to the Catholic Church. Is his testimony credible? One could listen to this and claim it is just an intense reaction to Vatican II. As someone with a degree in history I know there are always 3 sides to the truth so I’m interested in what theologians, Catholics, and priests think about this episode.

Here’s the video but I am unable to link it

(Pints with Aquinas: “What the 60’s did to the Catholic Church and why the Tide is finally turning”)

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4GTsBlLybMDqQCxdYltRO4?si=miAiPDddQBa6HnLvHnjIWg

u/0pinionatedcrafter — 15 days ago