u/0nlyfriendineed

Please excuse any mistakes in my phrasing as English is not my first language, and I used an AI to help me organize my thoughts into this post so I could be as clear as possible. I’ve spent a lot of time in denial about this, but I’m finally at a point where I need to face things head-on. I’m a 29-year-old guy, 182cm and 73kg, and I’m getting married soon to the love of my life. I really want to feel confident and present in our marriage, but I’ve been struggling with PE for as long as I can remember. I’m not entirely sure if it’s lifelong or acquired, but it’s been a source of a lot of shyness and anxiety for me. To be honest, I’ve only actually had penetrative sex twice in my life, and those experiences have left me pretty worried about the future. My first encounter was six years ago and it didn't even involve penetration—I ejaculated just from dry humping, which was a huge blow to my confidence. My only actual penetrative experiences happened much more recently, and the circumstances were far from ideal. I was very high on weed and cigarettes, exhausted, stressed, and frankly could barely breathe or eat well. During those sessions, I was coming very fast. At best, I lasted maybe 5 minutes, but most of the time the first session of the day would be around 2 minutes, even with changing positions and trying to stop before the point of no return (PONR). While I’ve had other non-penetrative encounters where I could go for hours without feeling the urge to climax, these recent penetrative instances make me feel like I have a deep-seated issue. My health history has been a bit of a roller coaster. I’ve dealt with severe anxiety and depression for years and was on Fluoxetine for a long time. I eventually stopped the medication because it was causing ED and making me feel like I had no desire to live. Since quitting, my erections have improved and I get morning wood again, but the PE remains a major hurdle. I also quit smoking cigarettes and stopped a heavy weed habit a few months ago after using it pretty consistently for the last few years. I also stopped watching porn about three months ago, even though I was never a heavy masturbator. One thing I’ve noticed lately is that I have very frequent urination, and I’m starting to wonder if that’s somehow related to the pelvic issues or the PE itself. Lately, I’ve started following the maledefinitiveguide program, but it’s been a frustrating process. On the very first day, I climaxed because I wasn't stopping enough. I felt a bit more control after a few days, but I still have this issue where once I hit the PONR, it just happens suddenly—it’s like I get too greedy or lose focus. I also recently started incorporating Angion, but it seems to have made me much more sensitive very quickly. I've tried it for two days now and I've climaxed every time, even when I don't feel like I'm anywhere near the PONR. My body feels like it's on a hair-trigger now. I’m currently practicing diaphragmatic breathing, pelvic floor yoga, and reverse kegels, but I’m finding it incredibly difficult to maintain the breathing technique once I’m actually masturbating. It’s hard to stay motivated when every "failed" session makes me feel like this can't be solved. I’m wondering if the frequent urination is a sign of a hypertonic pelvic floor, and if anyone has advice on managing this sudden spike in sensitivity or specific video guides for the breathing and yoga that worked for them? I feel like I might be missing something vital in my approach. TL;DR: 29M, getting married soon. Only had penetrative sex twice (lasted 1-2 mins, most recent was under high stress/weed/exhaustion). Recently quit weed/cigs/porn and stopped Fluoxetine. Dealing with frequent urination and wondering if it’s related to PE. Currently struggling with high sensitivity while doing the maledefinitiveguide program, Angion, and reverse kegels. Looking for advice on breathing techniques and managing a potentially tight pelvic floor.