My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Recently we’ve had a few conversations about having kids in the future.
At first she said she wanted two kids someday. Later, she told me she doesn’t really want to go through pregnancy because she’s afraid of the pain and body changes that come with it. She said she might consider surrogacy in the future after enjoying married life for a few years.
I’ve always imagined having children one day, especially a child that would look like both of us, so hearing this made me emotional and confused. I asked her if she still wanted a family, and she said she likes the idea of kids but doesn’t want pregnancy itself.
Now I’m struggling with how to process this difference in views and whether this could become a compatibility issue later. I’m not trying to judge her choices — I just want advice from people who’ve dealt with different opinions about children in relationships.People who’ve been in similar situations, how did you figure out whether this was a compatibility issue or just something that needed more time and discussion?