I (30F) have been with my husband (28M) for 8 years, and for our entire relationship, I’ve always done driving.
From early on, he’s always said he will learn eventually (FYI he learnt to drive before we got together but never took his test). 8 years later, nothing has changed.
I’ve tried to be understanding. He says he’s scared of driving and is convinced that if he gets behind the wheel, he’ll crash and die. I don’t want to dismiss that fear, but at the same time he’s more than happy for me to take that risk every day.
I’m the one who has to drive everywhere, i can’t go on girls nights because i worry how I’ll get home and I don’t want to burden my friends husbands all the time. We go on less dates because it’s hardly spontaneous when he has to ask for me to drive us. I just want wear cute heels i don’t have to drive in
We’ve both spoken about how we want kids, and being 30 I’m starting to think I would like to have that option soon but I feel like being the only one who can drive is a deal breaker. What if I’m sick and couldn’t get to hospital? What if our kids were? He says I can take a taxi… maybe he doesn’t want a family deep down. My best friend offered to my birth partner if we decided we wanted kids, and she’d be there in an instant. He’d probably be calling his mum for a lift. I’d also quite like him to be there.
We’ve stopped going on nice days out together because to be honest, I just want to be driven somewhere. I find driving can be quite overstimulating for me, and while the majority of the time it’s fine, I just want a break. I want someone else to do the food shop and bring it home in their car. I want to be taken on a spontaneous date night i haven’t driven to.
AITAH for asking too much?