u/-shikaka

Hi all 👋

I’m interested in chatting with anyone that has similar interests and possibly make friends.

33f, Aussie and studying full-time. I enjoy music, movies (mainly horror), yoga, pilates, games, cooking/baking and art/craft. I’m currently in health recovery as well.

Feel free to hmu if you think we’d get along! 😊

Hi all 👋

I’ve been noticing this happening within the last couple of weeks in subs and not sure how to manage my sensitivities around it. I mainly follow health and ND-related subs and have found them to be very positive and inclusive. At the start of the year I started following some for hobbies/special interests. About a month ago I started noticing a massive spike in posts and comments in some of them that are incredibly misogynistic, ableist, xenophobic and/or racist.

The thing that has disturbed me the most is not just how quickly it’s become regular, but also the amount of people that agree with them. Within the last couple of weeks I’ve left 3 of them because it was getting to the point the threads were full of people commenting how disturbing it is and nothing was being done.

Without naming subs or anything, I’m just curious if anyone else has been coming across this and how do you manage when it or similar experiences makes you mad? I’ve had 2 men in the last 2 days reply to me with things that are either irrelevant or incorrect, and using that to unload a bunch of discriminatory stuff. I get really mad at stuff like that so I’ll reply, but I find it very draining and realised I don’t know how to not get mad at it. It’s also very jarring because I normally wouldn’t expect that kind of thing in those spaces where it’s been happening.

I recently realised this might not be something everyone can do, so I’m wondering if anyone can relate to this.

I’ve always been extra empathetic to the point that I’ll actually feel the emotion. It’s just the feeling though, like I won’t think I’m actually going through whatever the thing is or anything.

An example is if I think about dating again that’s fine and I can think about what I want in a partner, but if I spend too long thinking about what that or the person might look like I can actually feel the feelings I’d have for that person. Then if I picture what a breakup with them might look like, I get upset.

But it’s just the feeling, I know that person isn’t real etc.The same thing can happen when people tell me about emotional things going on with them. Or I might cry more than someone might expect in a sad movie because I feel it really strongly. I’m learning to manage it because it’s very draining.