u/-misscnyc-

I never thought I’d take to social media any of my business but at this point, I just don’t know who to turn to… Anyhoo, I (F/39) find myself fighting with my teenage daughter (16) ALL of the time these days and man, I wish it would stop! We used to be so close but now we can’t even seem to have a regular conversation without her somehow finding something to snap at me about. I don’t understand why it’s happening so frequently now. I’ve always given her the safe space to speak her mind and share her thoughts. As someone who grew up in a toxic environment and was never allowed to even share my feelings, I knew it was never the place I ever wanted to put my kids in. I’ve been keeping to my word on that for the most part… Back to my daughter, she’s always been so good with receiving feedback from me when it comes to her behavior and doing what needs to correct it but these days, she doesn’t want to hear anything I have to say. She’s never wrong and I’m always the bad guy! Not only is it frustrating but it’s hurtful too. She can be really mean and I try not to take things so personally but come on, I’m human too! Half the time things don’t get resolved because she wants to shut down the conversation after it becomes heated. Granted, I know it should be on me, the parent, to keep things from getting out of line but I am not going to just allow her to talk to me however she feels like it. Respect still needs to be enforced but when I do, I’m the bad guy! Ugh, I hate where we’re at. I miss my baby girl and I miss how easy our relationship has always been. Let me just mention, this has only been going on for the last year (or so), so I’m still learning how to deal with it. All the changes.. the attitudes and lashing out, the wanting to be right all the time, the I do no wrong attitude to everything… all of it.. I’m doing my best but I’m starting to become overwhelmed with guilt like I did something along the way to change her or our relationship and can’t figure it out. Please, someone tell me they’re going through the same thing, especially if you have a teenage daughter. Any advice and feedback is welcome. Please keep it respectful. Thank you.