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I [29M] met [27F] on Hinge. She had a match note stating “come correct or don’t come at all” and “looking for long term partner”, so my thoughts going into dating her were to take things slow. Because of how different our work schedules are, we couldn’t meet till about 2 weeks after we matched, but we texted basically every day till our dinner date. It went really well. We talked all thru dinner and then hung out in my car and talked for several hours. She was asking personal questions so we were being very open with one another, past relationships, dating history, etc. When I dropped her off at her place, she hugged me bye, closed my car door, then quickly opened it and asked “why are you so awkward?” And I said “wdym, I thought our date went really well, we just talked the whole time?” Her: “yeah, but do you not find me attractive? You didn’t make a move?” Me: “of course I do, I’m just trying to be respectful.” Her: “Do you want to kiss me?” We proceeded to make out for a few minutes, then she told me that next time I needed to be more forward with her. So I said let me see you tomorrow then and she agreed.

We had another dinner date the next day, (she did say that a 2nd date was “uncharted territory” for her) went well, ended with us making out in my car and hooking up.

We’re texting daily at this point, she’d call me pet names. We set up a 3rd date. I ask her to the movies and invite her to stay the night at my place, she agrees, then proceeds to tell me she’s on her period and if asks if knowing that changes my mind on asking her to stay the night, I say it doesn’t. Date goes well, we’re getting ready for bed and she says she planned on leaving. Me: “Oh, okay I thought you wanted to stay the night?” Her: “Is that what you want?” Me: “I want you to do what you’re comfortable with.” Her: “Do you want me to stay?” Me: “Yes.” So she stays the night, of course we get intimate and she tells me she’s not actually on her period and “so much for being celibate”. We have sex that night and the following morning.

I think I start making some mistakes following all this. Instead of coordinating dates, I ask her a couple of times to come over to stay the night, she declines these advances. The texting slows down and for a weekend she doesn’t text me, although this wasn’t concerning considering she was working out of town. When she came back she let me know, told me about her weekend, asked me about mine. I asked if I’d see her this week, she said “you wanted to see me?” Me: “I do” and tried to coordinate a date, but she has since left me on delivered and it’s been a couple of days.

Since we had our 3rd date I had decided to pause my Hinge account, but now I feel things aren’t going where I thought they were. Is the lying about her period a red flag? Maybe we moved too quickly? Am I wrong if I decide to start dating somebody else in the mean time?

I [29M] met [27F] on Hinge. When we matched she had the match note “come correct or don’t come at all” which I just thought “ok, I respect it”. We set up a dinner date and it goes really well—dinner turns into talking in my car for a couple of hours, then at the park on a bench for a couple of hours, then in my car outside of her place and before you know it it’s 2am. We’re being very open with each other about past relationships, family, etc. At the end of the date she’s getting out of my car, says bye, closes the door then opens it again and says “why are you so awkward?” And I say “what do you mean, we just talked all night, I thought things went pretty well?” Her: “Well do you not find me attractive? You didn’t make a move.” Me: “I absolutely find you attractive, I’m just trying to be respectful.” Her: “Do you want to kiss me?” Me: “Yeah, I do.” And so we made out for a few minutes. Then she tells me to be more direct next time and I say “Ok, I’ll see you tomorrow then.”

We go out for dinner again and she tells me that a 2nd date is uncharted territory for her; we end up hooking up.

3rd date is about a week after this, I invite her to the movies and offer for her to stay the night at my place, she agrees and then says “I’m on my period, do you still want me to stay the night?” Me: “doesn’t matter to me, of course I do.” Movie date goes well, we’re back at my place getting ready for bed and she says “I planned on just going home.” Me: “Oh ok, you don’t want to stay the night?” Her: “What do you want?” Me: “I want you to do what you’re most comfortable with.” Her: “Do you want me to stay?” Me: “I do.” So she agrees to stay and of course we get intimate and she tells me “so I’m not actually on my period. So much for being celibate.” And we hook up. Following morning, we have sex before she leaves.

At this point, I’m thinking that things are going well, she’s calling me pet names and checking in with me daily via text. I do think I make a big mistake of inviting her over to stay the night a couple of times instead of coordinating our next date because she declines these advances and it’s been almost 2 weeks since we’ve seen each other (both busy) and for the first time since we matched she hasn’t texted me in a couple of days.

I don’t know if she’s trying to play hard to get or if we moved faster than what she was expecting. Is calling me awkward for not making a move and lying about her period red flags? Should I just wait for her to reach out to me at this point?

I [29M] met [27F] on Hinge. When we matched she had the match note “come correct or don’t come at all” which I just thought “ok, I respect it”. We set up a dinner date and it goes really well—dinner turns into talking in my car for a couple of hours, then at the park on a bench for a couple of hours, then in my car outside of her place and before you know it it’s 2am. We’re being very open with each other about past relationships, family, etc. At the end of the date she’s getting out of my car, says bye, closes the door then opens it again and says “why are you so awkward?” And I say “what do you mean, we just talked all night, I thought things went pretty well?” Her: “Well do you not find me attractive? You didn’t make a move.” Me: “I absolutely find you attractive, I’m just trying to be respectful.” Her: “Do you want to kiss me?” Me: “Yeah, I do.” And so we made out for a few minutes. Then she tells me to be more direct next time and I say “Ok, I’ll see you tomorrow then.”

We go out for dinner again and she tells me that a 2nd date is uncharted territory for her; we end up hooking up.

3rd date is about a week after this, I invite her to the movies and offer for her to stay the night at my place, she agrees and then says “I’m on my period, do you still want me to stay the night?” Me: “doesn’t matter to me, of course I do.” Movie date goes well, we’re back at my place getting ready for bed and she says “I planned on just going home.” Me: “Oh ok, you don’t want to stay the night?” Her: “What do you want?” Me: “I want you to do what you’re most comfortable with.” Her: “Do you want me to stay?” Me: “I do.” So she agrees to stay and of course we get intimate and she tells me “so I’m not actually on my period. So much for being celibate.” And we hook up. Following morning, we have sex before she leaves.

At this point, I’m thinking that things are going well, she’s calling me pet names and checking in with me daily via text. I do think I make a big mistake of inviting her over to stay the night a couple of times instead of coordinating our next date because she declines these advances and it’s been almost 2 weeks since we’ve seen each other (both busy) and for the first time since we matched she hasn’t texted me in a couple of days.

I don’t know if she’s trying to play hard to get or if we moved faster than what she was expecting. Is calling me awkward for not making a move and lying about her period red flags? Should I just wait for her to reach out to me at this point?