u/-SoftChaos-

Pata hai aaj kya hua… first post

Hi everyone, this is going to be a bit long — but I feel like Reddit is the only place I can lay this out without overthinking too much. I also used ChatGPT to help structure this so it’s easier to follow. This is my first post please be kind to me 😭🙏 I’m 25F, and I realize I’ve been the one initiating at times because he’s one of the only people within my religion I’ve truly felt something for.

So there’s this guy (we had some history around 4 years ago, not a relationship but there was emotional involvement). Recently, he suddenly came back and started talking again.

One thing that stood out immediately — he started asking about marriage and my views on it right at the beginning. After 4 years of no contact, that felt… intense and confusing.

At first, things were engaging:

- We shared songs

- Talked late at night

- There was clear chemistry

But then I started noticing a pattern:

- He disappears for hours and comes back like nothing happened

- Avoids direct questions (for example, when I asked if he cares, he deflected with jokes)

- Talks a lot in metaphors — “destiny”, “journey”, “mystery”, etc.

- Says things like he’ll meet me someday or that he’s “patient”, but doesn’t actually follow through with effort

He even mentioned how he came back after 4 years like it was “destiny,” which made it feel meaningful — but his actions don’t really match that.

At one point, I told him clearly that I don’t like aimless interactions and prefer something with direction. His response was along the lines of “the journey matters more than the destination” and similar philosophical lines.

I decided to stop replying to see if he would make an effort — but he didn’t. The conversation just stopped unless I initiate.

For context, I’m also going through a recent breakup, so I know I’m a bit emotionally vulnerable right now. I don’t want to confuse distraction with something real.

He also asked me not to block him and said I can text him anytime, but again — no real consistency from his side.

My questions:

- Why would someone suddenly bring up marriage and destiny after years of no contact?

- Does this seem like genuine interest or just someone enjoying the interaction?

- Am I expecting too much too soon?

- Should I cut this off completely or keep it casual?

I don’t want to hurt him unnecessarily, but I also don’t want to get hurt again.

Would really appreciate honest opinions.