I already thought the conversations we had online leading up to the date were very dry and lacking depth compared to what I’m used to. I was mostly the one asking him questions etc, and when I’d share back he’d only ever respond “interesting, thanks for sharing that” and immediately ask how my day was or similar. 🥱 I decided to still give it a try because of a mutual friend we have. This person told me a lot of great things about my date. So we met two weeks later and the conversation flowed nicely in person. Again, I was mostly the one asking questions and showing interest in his life and background. He made amazing dinner for me and was very generous and funny. However, I did not get a feeling he was attracted to me. I also did not feel a pull towards him. The pull usually happens for me if the guy flirts with me, but with this guy it just seems platonic. After the date the texting was even dryer than before. Even his emojis are less enthusiastic now lmao. However, the next day he invited me for another date (dinner and cinema) and said I was free to sleep over if I wanted to. I accepted the date but said I wasn’t able to sleep over. He respected this. So this is my conclusion, but it might be wrong:
- He is not into me and is just hoping to get laid.
- He does like me but does not want to express it for whatever reason?
Because he does put effort into the dates, like driving an hour to pick me up and drop me off. He refuses I use public transport. But I also genuinely don’t know the length guys will go to get laid.
I will meet him again and if I still don’t feel a spark between us I’ll let it go. What do you guys think? I prefer it when guys express their interest FIRST, either through body language or their words, so this is very new to me. He’s extremely ripped and tall, so maybe he feels he doesn’t “need” to?