Kinda looking for advice, kinda ranting, and kinda just want the truths to this that ya’ll have come to find.
I’m 25F. I see people at work who are friends and actually go out and make plans. I see people when I go out alone or with my bf that have made plans together. I see people I know that are making plans all the time through social media.
So why haven’t I been able to manage making plans with a single friend in over 6 months?
Every single one of my friends end up flaking. Every time. I gave up asking for a while and then end up asking again if we get back in touch. Just to have flakiness in response.
A long time friend of mine has done this for years. She will not get back to me until it’s too late and I see the posts from her hanging out with other people. Or she will say “lemme see” or “possibly” or actually seem like she’s gonna follow through until she ultimately says that she can’t, that something came up and then I see her post with other friends during the time we were supposed to hang out. She’s a special case there. She has issues. We have only hung out once in the past year despite living in the same city.
As for the others, it’s just exhausting knowing that they’re more likely than not gonna end up flaking.
So my question is. Where tf are the people that actually want to follow through with plans? I’ve only had one friend so far that does this, but I drifted away because I was kinda scared of her. I feel bad for doing that. And guess what? I bet people are scared of me too and that’s my karma.
I’m just at a loss. I just wanna have friends to hang out with and have a reason to wear all the cute clothes I spent so much money on.