What is the best digital family calendar for families where only one person checks it
I want to start by saying I've tried everything. Google calendar, a whiteboard on the fridge, a paper planner on the kitchen counter, the notes app on my phone, a shared google doc. At one point I was running three systems simultaneously and I thought the problem was that I hadn't found the right one yet.
The problem was never the tool. The problem was that I was the only one using any of them.
I would spend my sunday night entering every school event, every practice, every appointment, every birthday party into whatever system we were using that month. And then I'd also be the one reminding my husband about everything on the calendar anyway, because he didn't check it. So I was doing the work of maintaining the system AND still being the verbal reminder. What's the point of a calendar if you're still the calendar?
I brought this up to my husband and to his credit he didn't get defensive. He admitted he just doesn't check things unless they're right in front of his face, and honestly I believe him because his phone is a graveyard of unread notifications. I'm not even mad anymore I'm just tired. I'm tired of being the only person who knows what's happening in our family's week and I'm tired of every solution requiring ME to be the organized one for it to work.
I know apps like cozi, time tree, ohai, familywall, and google calendar exist but I've only really tried cozi and google calendar and neither stuck for the reasons I just described. I want to know from actual parents using these, what is the best digital family calendar that works when you're the only one putting in the effort? Not app store reviews, real experiences from families where one parent carries this.