r/vancouverdating

Me and a few friends were talking about dating in Vancouver, especially since we've seen some posts here asking "where do I find my man???" and one of them came up with this idea.

She pitched it as a regular improv class but with "meet cute" scenarios, and since improv provides a safe space to fumble, it sounded like a great idea to play around with flirty scenarios or, at the very least, have fun trying out improv with a group of people.

However my other friend said "this sounds terrifying" since she's more introverted.

I'm on the fence, leaning towards it being a good idea since since I'm more extroverted, but what I'm curious about is the type of people this will attract. I think it's a really cool idea from that perspective because people who are more creative/ expressive and have similar values related to this would sign up (probably). Like, your average joe isn't gonna wanna randomly sign up for this

What do you guys think? And would anyone want to join?

Or does anyone else have ideas? I guess you would call this a "dating event"

Hey everyone,

I’m a 28-year-old guy looking to connect with someone interested in a mutually beneficial, compensated arrangement—something that’s enjoyable, respectful, and genuinely rewarding for both of us.

A bit about me: I’m active and take care of myself (think hockey-player build), and I genuinely enjoy getting out and doing things. I’m into hiking, staying consistent at the gym, trying new restaurants, and just experiencing what the city has to offer. I’m easygoing, straightforward, and value good conversation and positive energy.

What I’m looking for: someone a bit younger (higher compensation for someone in collage), with a good vibe, who enjoys spending time together—whether that’s going out on dates, exploring new spots, or just having a fun, relaxed time. Ideally, you’re someone who appreciates a balanced dynamic where both sides feel valued.

The details of the arrangement are open and flexible. I’m happy to discuss what works best for both of us and make sure it feels right on both sides.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to reach out and tell me a bit about yourself.

Looking forward to connecting.

I’ve been feeling like that for some time now. I don’t know where she is, but I can tell you where I haven’t found her.

I certainly haven’t found her in dating apps. I think she got tired of them, or maybe she never tried them in the first place. Maybe she also thinks you can’t really make up your mind about someone based on a highly curated little profile.

I also haven’t found her in any of my hobbies. I try to dedicate myself to the things I love, so it’s not like I’m searching for her there, but she hasn’t popped up.

Finally, I haven’t seen her around town, but I believe she is. A man can dream, right?

That’s me, by the way. I’m a man who dreams. The scientifically inclined among you might point out that all men who have ever existed can claim as much. To you, I’ll bring up Charcot-Wilbrand syndrome, but I’ll still appreciate your candor.

The literary inclined might point out that this world might as well be the dream of a butterfly. To you, I’m sad to confide that the times have grown dark, and butterflies don’t dream anymore.

Maybe you can appreciate both points of view. Maybe you’re someone who’s still trying to make sense of this mess, but you’re still open to the dream like reality of it.

I know this runs the risk of looking like an exercise in creative writing at best and a stream of consciousness at worst, but I want to reassure you, this is still personal. And since it is, I should speak about myself in more concrete terms.

Not that I think the immediate details of my life necessarily describe me better than the earlier paragraphs, but still.

I’m a man, and I’m from Canada. Physically, I do my best to live up to the image of the lumberjack, I love flannel, and I enjoy having a beard. Contrary to what my writing style might suggest, people say I’m funny, and I laugh like a dork or an oaf. I think I’m a very happy person. I haven’t always had the easiest life, but it taught me to be positive. I have an odd work history, and I’ve dabbled in many fields.

My friends often say they feel supported by me. I try my best to be a constant presence, and if I can’t offer support, I at least aim for understanding. I like listening to people’s problems and chiming in. I used to do so professionally. Some things you can’t unbecome.

I have a bunch of hobbies. I love reading, but I’m an incredibly picky reader. I know that’s not something to brag about, and I’m certainly not proud of it, it just is what it is.

I just got back to playing the acoustic guitar. I’m incredibly rusty, and it’ll take time. But it’s a gentle reminder not to let go of the things you love. And also that nothing is ever truly lost.

I like to paint 3D prints, mostly sea related things, like fish. I love board games, and I play video games too, though not as often as I used to. Occasionally I go hiking. Not often, but when I do, it’s always an adventure. I want to get into bouldering soon.

Who am I looking for?

I think if you’ve read this far, you can answer that question yourself. If you think it could be you, please reach out.

If not, thank you for reading anyway, I hope you have a nice day.