I am questioning if I should move forward with divorcing my wife. We've been together for 8 years, married for 1-1/2. The final straw is her request for boundaries with my puppy. I have to add a fence in the backyard to keep my dog in a small section, if my wife is in the yard. Inside the house, baby gates to keep my dog away from her in whatever space she is in. Keep her kenneled in the garage at night. When my wife isn't home she can have full reign. But I am also to make sure my dog is kenneled when my wife comes home from work.
For context, I feel like I was sold on a lie when we were dating. I had a dog and a cat when we got together. My wife would send me pictures of her with dogs and stating she was thinking of getting one. The only reason her and her kids never had one is because she didn't want to take care of three kids, her husband (when they were together) and a dog. My dog at that time was 7, she'd snuggle him, take pictures and such. We eventually moved into together. About 2 or 3 years later, she started complaining. He she'd too much (Labrador Husky), I was giving him too much attention, and started saying she always said she wasn't a pet person. By this time I had already bought a house for us and her 2 youngest. I was fully invested. I had always held hope that she'd be different with my next dog. My late dog passed earlier this year. She encouraged me to get a goldendoodle puppy. She doted on my puppy at first, but within a week her attitude shifted. She thought a puppy would be just as good as my late dog was (non destructive, potty trained, calm). We've literally been arguing since.
Throughout our relationship she'd also let her kids do whatever. I set boundaries and she'd let them cross them. I'd ask her to talk to them about issues and she wouldn't. It became me being too much. For a few months right after we married, her 18 year old son would bring his girlfriend over. They'd show up around 11am and she'd stay until right before his mom came home (early release from HS). I work from home and my office is a she shed in the backyard. I'd go in the house to make lunch or get something to drink. Every time I'd walk in on doing things. I tried talking to them, they just kept doing whatever. I begged my wife to talk to him. I was uncomfortable walking into my own home. She would just laugh at me. She Said she was too uncomfortable to talk to him about it. Until one day 3 months later she saw it herself. That son moved out in September. Now we just have her youngest who is leaving for college in a few months.
This could be a great time for us. Empty nest and we can truly do whatever whenever. But her issue is my dog. She's not even wanting to let my dog go on hikes, the beach, etc. I am refusing to push my dog to the side when my wife is around. I don't want to be hyper vigilant on where my dog is in relation to my wife.
There are other issues, but they aren't as bad.
Please, I need advice as I am starting to question myself.